Okay, so this post might sound kind of mean at first. But once I explain to y’all my reason for feeling this way, I think we will be on the same page.
So before I even came on this trip, I knew who was going and I knew that I could be cordial, but I wasn’t just itching to be friends with any of them. Well I have always been a good judge of character and this situation isn’t any different. My first instinct proved to be right (as it does 90%) of the time, and I am thoroughly over 9 out of 13 people on this trip (and one truly wants to get popped).
1. I CANNOT stand people that are ALWAYS in their feelings. Especially about some Kindergarten mess like people not being their friends or not liking them (especially people they don’t even know, i.e. ME)
2. If you have a problem with ME address ME about it, especially if none of these people know me on this trip. I could see if you asked one of my friends (hey does Gaby like me? she’s kinda stand-offish, but even that’s childish because really who cares? I’m not nobody lol!)
3. We are GROWN, who is still worried about people liking them after senior year of high school, like for real? You didn’t pay for me to like you, you paid to learn Spanish and get a cultural experience.
I say all that to say this. If my child (in the future for those who don’t know me, I DO NOT have any kids right now) ever wants to study abroad, she will be taking a VERY good friend with her that I KNOW, because people are not who you think they are. I don’t care if I have to pay for both of them to go.
Times can get very lonely when you are staying true to yourself and not just doing things just because everyone else is doing it. I am fine, and staying home doesn’t bother me (I LOVE having the room to myself), but I do wish I had a friend here with me that liked to do the same things as me. Don’t get me wrong there are a few cool people on the trip, but sometimes we are not on the same page.
For example, I am totally fine with going somewhere and having drinks, but I am NOT okay with being belligerently drunk ANYWHERE, especially in a place that I am not very familiar with, and I don’t want to be drunk ALL THE TIME! I don’t get pissy drunk at home (well the drinking age is 21 in the US) and I’m not going to do it here. THAT AIN’T CUTE.
People are not who they claim to be, and when you go somewhere with ppl you don’t know, you don’t know what to expect because well…. You don’t know them. I have still enjoyed my time here even though I don’t completely vibe with anyone, but it has taught me tolerance and how to connect with people on different levels. You don’t have to be “besties” with someone to have a good time. Y’all just need to have a mutual respect for one another.
However, I can’t stress to you enough, that if it is at all possible, travel with a friend or family member that you know very well, have maybe traveled with before, and who has the same morals and principles as you: